I just moved in with my boyfriend Ben and were deliriously happy. Weve been together for about four years and I consider this the next step towards our wedding. I wouldnt have moved in if I thought it was to live together and then eventually break up and go our separate ways. I want to be with Ben for the rest of my life. After living with him for about a month, I think Im going to have to move out. Every week he goes out to dinner with his parents one night out of the week. Im never invited. When he told me one time I could meet them at the restaurant, I got so mad I told him to forget it. Then I found out that his parents dont know were living together and that he doesnt plan on telling them. His parents have always liked me and been nice when theyve met me. I dont see what the problem is. My parents have known since before I moved. He says he hasnt told his because they are very religious and he knows they wont approve. I dont buy it. Hes 32 and I think he should grow up and tell them. Signed, Nearly Homeless Okay: I thought it was always the girl who couldnt tell her parents about her live-in. Not that that helps you in this case, however. But I bet it makes you feel kind of whory that he wont tell them. Like youre just some floozy sharing his bed whos not worth mentioning. Then again, it might make you feel even more whory if his parents are really religious and he told them. Religion has been known to make people crazy (terrorists, anyone?). He might be 32, but it might be easier (for him, at least) if he just avoids the subject altogether with his zealoty parents. If theyre going to shun him (or more likely, you), he might feel hes protecting you from a huge scene (especially at a restaurant). On the other hand, it takes two to cohabitate. He should be able to stand up to said zealoty parents and declare both his love for you and the fact that youre not a floozy. Because youre not living there alone; if you were, this wouldnt be an issue at all. You need to understand that maybe his parents are better off not knowing. Honestly isnt always the best policy. Hes known them for 32 years, after all; hes probably gone through something like this before (not exactly, Im just saying Im sure hes had girlfriends in the past and there were probably indicators about how Mom and Dad would feel about him living with them). But he needs to understand why it bothers you. So figure out if it makes you feel like youre temporary or a floozy or not worth mentioning and tell him. If that doesnt change his mind, or change yours, it might be a dealbreaker. If youre having problems in the first month, you should definitely consider a change of venue. Either way I see this resolving itself fairly soon, mostly because I think his parents are going to find out youre living there. His mom will drop by unexpectedly and see all your clothes hanging in his closet. Or theyll call and youll answer the phone, Ben and Nearly Homeless residence. And that will be that. Im going to my 10-year high school reunion in a few weeks. Ever since I heard about it, Ive been on a diet and am now at a coveted size 4. For the past few years, before the extra dieting, Im probably a small-ish size 8. Ten years ago, when I was 18, I was a size 18. I never thought Id go to my reunion. High school wasnt exactly pleasant. I had a few friends, but I never dated anyone. I think I will surprise people I havent seen in a few years, but I only want to wow this one guy I liked all through school. He wasnt captain of the football team or anything like that, just a regular guy in my French class. Even regular guys were out of my league back then. I did some checking and hes divorced. Should I call him up and ask him to be my date? Signed, Skinny Minnie Okay: If you really want to wow him, just wait. Go to the reunion with someone attractive, but platonic (do you have any gay male friends?), and then carefully intrude into his sight line. In something slinky and revealing, preferably. Remember, its been 10 years. You could call him, but come on, a lot can happen in ten years. He could get married and divorced, for instance. You dont want to look like the girl thats been pining away over him for the last decade, do you? I dont care if youre a size negative 2, thats crazy. Plus, youve changed a lot. Chances are he will have, too. He probably wont be exactly how you remember him; it doesnt sound like you knew him well even way back when. I dont care how nice he was in French, he might be a jerk now. You dont want to box yourself into spending the entire evening with someone you dont like. Heres the deal: take the gay friend we talked about and just have a good time. If you still want to after you actually talk to your moldy crush, make a move. But if you dont, feel free to wow some other people. Kick up your heels. Maybe even meet somebody else. Just dont set yourself up for all that disappointment of your dream man not working out. Its not worth it.